Larry Field’s first sign of stress was observed when his child was born. He used to play basketball at night and on the Sunday afternoon, he used to softballs. His baby not only disturbed his schedule, but was also a source of additional expenses.
More stress followed when he was made the boss of the crew at his workplace. One of his subordinate was getting a degree in engineering at night school. His subordinates were of same age as Larry was. He was suffering from severe insecurity to Alfonso Reyes, the scholar, who Larry felt would replace him. Larry was stumbling of his own words. This is in turn was turning his face red as he had to start all over again. He started to smoke, something he never did since he was dating. He used to smoke in front of his crew that made them irritated because of passive smoking.
The things were getting murky at Larry’s home as well. His wife had given up her job and was babysitting at night. The tension of Larry was apparent as all he and his wife talked about was how to move to California or Alaska, where for the kind of work Larry do, it is paid five times than he had been getting. Larry could realize that his wife was dissatisfied with him as she thought Larry’s talent was wasted in the way he is leading his life.
Larry was trying to cope with his stress by employing self defeating tactics. He started to smoke and drinking and worrying that became a pattern in Larry’s life.
Some of the steps Larry can take to cope with the stress he was going on are:
- Adopting a healthy lifestyle
- Talking to other people a lot. That means enhancing his social life
- Sharing his problems and his feelings with friends, counselor, doctor and most importantly with his wife
- Quitting smoking and drinking with immediate effect
- Taking a break (Hobfoll & Lilly, 1993